Sarah Shore, MS

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Summer Camp.

ADHD coaching

My daughter started a new adventure this week.  Summer camp.  Her first day was a whirlwind of new experiences as she tried to learn the ropes and fit in with kids who had started at camp weeks earlier. 

As I dropped her off on that Monday morning I knew we were starting a new chapter and that she would reach new milestones. 

She was quiet when I picked her up after her first half day for the preschool crowd.  She seemed to be processing all the events of her busy morning.  As the day went on, I could tell new knowledge was coming together in her mind. 

As I put her to bed that night, she had a hard time falling to sleep.  Finally, after many bedtime stories she said to me, “Mommy, I couldn’t put my goggles on by myself today so I didn’t want to swim.  Can you tell my teacher I need help putting my goggles on?”

I thought about the question and how best to respond.  As a coach, my job is to help you discover the best solutions to the problems and challenges you face.  Not only is solving problems for you impractical, it’s very unlikely to be helpful.    

Wanting my daughter to rest easy, I assured her I would let her teacher know in the morning. 

Many more times she reminded me before falling asleep that night.  She wanted my promise that I would resolve this for her.  “Can you ask your teacher?”  I asked.  She simply said, “I want you to do it, Mommy.”  “Ok,” I said.

In the morning, she asked another dozen times.  Each time, I reassured her.  “I will ask your teacher.”  We headed off to camp.  As we walked to her “home base,” she reminded me one more time.  “Mommy, can you ask my teacher to please help me put on my goggles when it’s time for swimming?”  “Yes,” I said.

As we approached the teacher, I took a calculated risk and pushed my daughter just a bit past her comfort zone.  I was so hopeful she would rise to the challenge but prepared to catch her just in case she needed me.  I said, “Do you have something you want to tell your teacher?” 

As the teacher listened intently, my daughter clearly projected her voice and said, “I need help putting my goggles on today before swim.”

I was filled with pride and a great sense of relief.  I could see the pride she felt for herself after pushing past her fear.  What may seem small was a big leap for her.  And a success as her teacher warmly and supportively agreed, “Yes, we will put them on together.”

I pushed her past her comfort zone but I was there to hold her hand while she did it.  That’s exactly the kind of support a lot of us need.  We are all capable of making those leaps and pushing past our comfort zones…sometimes we just need to feel supported on the journey.

If you are ready to get out of your comfort zone and make some big leaps toward your goals, the support of a coach and an awesome online peer group might be just the thing to get you there.  


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